Affirmations are simply ways of putting into words thoughts and beliefs that can manifest themselves under the form of a “internal voice”. You use affirmations all the time. The problem is they often are negative. For example
“There is no point trying. I’ll never succeed. I’ll fail no matter what”
This type of affirmation negatively hypnotizes you into failing and not trying. An opposite affirmation could be something like
“I choose to let go and overcome what worries me. I choose to relax. I can do this and I will do this”
If you resist change you stay stuck in your negative affirmations and nothing changes. It is not a matter of saying affirmations that are true. It’s a matter of using affirmations that you can believe in and that you believe that are going to be beneficial for you. Believe in what you want to feel and you’ll begin to feel the way you believe .
The placebo effect works in much the same way. For example if you believe that sleeping pills are the only way for you to sleep that will be the case, not because they actually work but because you believe they do. If on the other hand you firmly believe they will never work on you they won’t. The mind is much more powerful than you think it is.
You can use affirmations by reading them, listening to them under the form of an MP3 or by remembering and recalling them during the day while you wait or you do the dishes or such like activity. Affirmations are used under the form of suggestions under hypnosis or in subliminal audio.
The important thing is to fully internalize what you say. Make it yours. Visualize it as clearly as possible. Notice how it makes you feel. Make it real for you and practice it until it feels real.
If you choose to create your own affirmations make sure to put them in the present tense (not the future) and make them positive. Make them about what you want. The subconscious doesn’t understand negatives so don’t use “don’ts”. Instead of saying “I don’t have insomnia” say “I sleep soundly and deeply all night long”
The right mindset is what distinguishes a natural sleeper from an insomniac. Given the same circumstances (say, an important meeting or a job interview tomorrow morning) the natural sleeper goes to bed relaxed and slowly drifts off to sleep waking up refreshed the next day while the insomniac goes to bed tense obsessing about what needs to be done or what could go wrong and only falls asleep when exhaustion has been reached, waking up grumpy and anxious the day after.
The good news is it is possible for anyone with an insomnia mindset (the worrier) to switch and get back to a natural sleeping mindset (the relaxed person). This doesn’t mean it will happen overnight, but if you are patient with yourself and focus on changing the negative habit of worrying before bed you shall succeed.
EFT is a very easy way to reduce anxiety and it can be invaluable if you feel you cannot seem to stop your obsessive thoughts. However, there are a few simple things you can also do now to help yourself now.
Worrying about sleeping or not sleeping is what actually keeps you awake. Worrying makes you tense and tension is the opposite of relaxation. Relaxation is what is needed for you to sleep naturally. You don’t have to try to sleep. It just happens when you stop trying to make it happen.
One way to deal with this is to use reverse psychology and try to keep awake instead of trying to sleep. That will reduce the stress associated with trying to sleep and paradoxically you will be able to sleep. Alternatively a very good way to lose your attachment and therefore your anxiety is to just say “F**k it” to it. This is the equivalent of the eastern concept of ‘acceptance” but we in the west understand it more easily this way.
When you say “f**k” it to anything you let it go, you stop caring and you relax. You have survived sleeping before, you will survive again. It’s not the end of the world. A watched pot never boils. What you resist persist. So just stop watching the pot, stop resisting, stop trying so hard and give in to whatever is now. Perhaps you could do something else for a while. Eventually you will naturally fall asleep, if you stop wanting it so much. Consider buying this book “f**k it, the ultimate spiritual way’ by John C.parkin.
If you spend all your time telling yourself negative things such as
what you are effectively doing is hypnotizing yourself into not sleeping. Your subconscious follows your orders no matter what you say to it, so it will do what you imagine and think.
So imagine how much better it would be to choose to hypnotize yourself into sleeping well by saying to yourself more beneficial things such as
Remember that what you imagine tends to come true so if you cannot change what is accept it and reframe it in your mind in a way that makes you feel better ! The same way you make yourself feel bad you can make yourself feel good. The choice is yours!
If you have thoughts that keep you awake consider writing them down on a journal before bed. Write down your feelings, your problems, your solutions, your tasks, your to do list. See it as a way to store them safely in ‘hibernate mode’ until you wake up again. This way you can let go of them confident that they will be there for you to ‘resolve’ if you wish tomorrow.
An easy way to distract your mind is to focus it on something other than your thoughts. It is easy to hear your chattering mind when all is quiet, so introduce some soothing music in your environment or listen to an hypnotic tape. You could use binaural beats or subliminal tapes. Whatever you do make it enjoyable, not just another chore and try to let go of ‘results’. This is just for you to enjoy no matter whether it makes you fall asleep or not.
If you use your bedtime to plan your day or solve problems you will keep yourself awake by not allowing your brain to calm down enough to sleep as well as creating an association between bed and conscious thinking rather than sleeping. It has now been proven that ‘sleeping on it’ makes people make important decisions 40% quicker than if they don’t. This is not due to conscious thinking but to subconscious processing (which takes place during sleep). So if you have an important decision to make, write it down, ‘put it to sleep’ and pick it up tomorrow morning. You could even ask your subconscious to give you a dream that will give you valuable insights on it.
Watching the clock will only make you more anxious thinking of all the time you have wasted keeping awake and worrying about how little sleep you are getting. Get rid of it. Use a mobile phone to wake you up or some kind of clock that doesn’t make a sound or emit light. Alternatively get a clock that emits a more relaxing light such as blue rather than red.
When it comes down to sleep problems there are three areas that need to be addressed if you want to learn how to get a better night’s sleep.
You need to learn to relax your mind and stop worrying about sleep. The more you obsess about sleeping or not sleeping the more difficult it will be to sleep. Accept where you are and how you feel and focus on relaxing instead. Think of what you want instead of what you fear or don’t want. Expect the best and accept the rest.
If your body is relaxed, your mind will soon follow. You need to give your body the message it is time to wind down. Avoid activities that stimulate your body before sleep and train yourself in self hypnosis or meditation or use hypnotic tapes to relax .Get enough exercise during the day so that you are tired when you go to sleep.
Condition yourself to follow routines that help you sleep. In detail here’s
Alcohol might seem like a good idea before sleep because it makes you feel relaxed. However although you may fall asleep faster you will also be more likely to wake up when the alcohol leaves your body and your sleep quality will also be poorer because alcohol increases the amount of REM sleep you get to the detriment of deep sleep.
Mental associations are vital to how well you sleep. If you work on your bed or you watch TV on it your mind will not associate it with sleep and therefore will not automatically relax when you are in it!
Your body releases melatonin when it is dark and it suppresses it when it is light. When melatonin is in your body you feel more drowsy and when it is suppressed you feel more awake. So dim your lights before bed and open the curtains as soon as you get up. If you get up when it’s dark consider buying a light-box (they simulate daylight)
Do not smoke, exercise heavily, drink caffeinated drinks or take sugary sweets before bed.
If you exercise during the day your muscles will relax and they will remain so when you sleep so you are less likely to move a lot in bed. Also exercise is a good way to release anxiety and stress, and it also helps ease depression. You don’t need to go to a gym to exercise. Walk everywhere and you will already feel the benefits.
What relaxes you? Candles? Incense? Soothing Music? A Bath? A good fiction book? Luxurious bedsheets? A nice pillow and cosy cushions? A comfortable bed? Beautiful curtains? Consider coloring your room a nice relaxing soft blue or purple, or whatever you find relaxing. Use lavender oil or amethyst crystals , candles and whatever else makes you feel relaxed. Switch the phone off, shut the computer down and enjoy the calmness for its own sake.
There are lots of relaxation tapes available over the internet. If you are looking for relaxing Music, positive affirmations, hypnotherapy for relaxation, to reduce stress and anxiety and improve sleep and self esteem you will find an excellent one here:
Relaxation Music, Sleep Music, Relaxing Music for Stress Relief
If you feel none of these works for you it doesn’t mean hypnosis is not for you. It just means you need a more personalized approach. Call me on 075 4424 7800 and not only I will address your specific issues when it comes to sleep but I will also record a personalized tape for you tailored to your personal needs and requirements.
This is a sleep disorder that happens when as your throat muscles relax during sleep the airways become obstructed and you find it hard to breathe. When this happens your body wakes you up so that the muscles in your throat can start to work again , the airways are cleared and you are able to breathe once again.
This problem is usually caused by
The most common symptoms of sleep apnea are: